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Otherkin.net used to feature a very large directory of contacts, built up over the years since coming online in 2000. There is as yet nothing in the site's current setup that replaces it. (You can browse the member list , but it's not organized by location and searchable by distance in the way that the old directory was.) As an alternative, I suggest the Otherkin Directory on Dreamhart . It's not very large, but there's a way to cure that!
On AnOtherWiki, you can find various lists: active mailing lists (although "active" is defined rather loosely); active gathers , active meetups , and upcoming community events ; and chats .
Darkfang Archive's Social category comprises lists of chats, forums, mailing lists, and other online groups. (Not everything listed is active; being an archive, part of its purpose is preserving history.)
Changes in the Community
See also the Community History section on the general otherkin info page.
Some of my thoughts on the state of the otherkin community as of 2002. Obviously this is old now, but it's funny how relevant some of it still seems to me.
A remark on conversation trends on lists and boards as they were in 2006
Jarandhel Dreamsinger's thoughts on the differences between the community ca. 2013 and about 10 years previously, and a response from Liryen Enderea
About Changes & Growth in the Therian & 'Kin Communities by Sonne
Talakestreal's musings on the "generations" of otherkin
Legends of Ourselves , on how forums and other online spaces used to be ca. late 90s/early 00s
Text in italics is taken from the list's description of itself. These lists are, unfortunately, all effectively moribund, but if you join you might find something interesting in their archives:
Elven Realities : As far as I know, the oldest still-operating list, since Elfinkind Digest shut down in early 2018. Despite the name and the description, other types besides elves are on the list as well, and it has long functioned as at least somewhat of a general otherkin list.
Elven Realities is a list to explore ideas on what it is to be "Elven". It does not matter if one thinks one is an elf, or thinks of it as a paradigm that they want to study...This list is here for intelligent conversation and exploration.
Anderen Vereinigte ("Others" United): This is an English-language list, despite the German name. The moderator just wanted something unusual, I think.
For those of us who are 'other' and well-aware of it -- for the noble, the fallen, the chosen, the outcast, the longlost, the lone, the forgotten conscious ones of here and now. You're not alone after all. So whaddaya wanna make of it? This is a place for gathering and searching and reweaving together the past and its meanings, our lives and their purposes at hand, to confront what's there and make something more-than-the-ordinary. Because the stakes are higher and there's sometimes (despite all admonitions) a bit of drama in the air when you're dealing with delving into reality and truth itself.
This is a forum for those Otherkin who are in this life—and chronologically over the age of thirty. Awakening can be difficult at the best of times, imagine coming into the process later in life, when you think you’ve figured it all out! This is a place where the OlderKin can discuss things pertaining to being older—and Otherkin.
Otherkin Theology :
The purpose of this list is to give Otherkin a place to discuss the effect Awakening has had on their religious beliefs.
Sidhe List :
The Sidhe List is [...] for the discussion of the Real World of Faeries, Elves, and Otherkin of the Earth. If you are serious about wanting to discuss and learn about Earthenkind Faeries and Otherkin, you may want to join this list.
Tuatha De Danaan [sic] - Discussion and exploration of Tuatha myths and memories
This is the basic, most fundamental level of otherkin list you can find. No question is too frequently asked, nor too stupid. More advanced or speicialized topics may, however, be directed at more advanced or specific lists, so that the list can better serve the newly awakened.
KinFrontiers - This began life as a list for discussion of advanced, controversial, or potentially offensive topics relating to otherkin, but is now a general discussion list.
This is the real hard-core stuff. Dark? Light? Time-Space Continuum? Veils? Blood & Guts, bring it on. Serious questions won't be turned away, more basic or specialized topics may be directed at more basic or specific lists, so that this list can better serve the members of the community interested in exploring all the boundaries of being 'kin.
We do not attempt to define "Dragon" or what being a Dragon means, but instead encourage deliberation on the topic. ... the nature of Draconity, philosophy, the afterlife and souls, temporal and spacial theory, physics, psychic and occult phenomena, purpose and will, religion, physiology, and so on are all quite welcome.
This is a list for those who believe, or know, that they are Dragons. ... it is our hope to provide a haven for Dragons and their kin alone at this time.... if you are looking for those who share your admiration of and respect for all Dragonkind, please join us and let your spirit take flight and may you ride the Winds in strength.
A list for Otherkin who are Angels or Angelic, or who have aspects which are Angels or Angelic. This is a place to discuss what it is to be angel-kin, to share experiences with others, or just to gripe. The Angelic experience can often be dark, and discussions of this nature are welcomed. See also the list info page on Dreamhart .
Regional lists in the Western USA:
An Otherkin list for those living from the San Fransisco Bay Area north to the Oregon border. Sadly, the listrunner Violin Goddess died in April 2016, and it seems no provision was made for anyone else to take over the list.
Group for Otherkin located in the Pacific Northwest, centralized around Western Washington.
Portland Elf Kin Gathering :
A group where those of the Portland, OR metro area or who plan to regularly be in the Portland area who identify as or feel like elves can gather and plan meetups and chats together. Those who think they might be elves but aren't sure and would like to get to know us better are also welcome.
Southern California Otherkin :
This Yahoo Group is for discussion between Kin in the Southern California area.
This list is for otherkin in the western US, mainly California, Oregon, and Washington (but also Nevada, Idaho, Utah and Arizona).
(There are many other regional otherkin lists, but being a US westerner myself, that's what I'm familiar with.)
LiveJournal and Dreamwidth
I co-moderate the otherkin community on LiveJournal. The otherkin_news LJ community, run by Orion Scribner, used to make regular postings of both news about otherkin, therians, and vampires, and items that are not strictly about these communities but may be of interest to their members; however, it's now somewhat out of date due to Orion's not having much time to devote to it.
Other potential LiveJournal communities, although they are pretty inactive: _dark_otherkin_ , humanfaeries , next_of_kin , once_winged , other_writings , the_kindred .
I moderate otherkin-haven on Dreamwidth, which has moderated membership and all posts are locked to the community. The otherkin community is a general, open community. (I am only a member there, not a mod.)
General audience otherkin (or otherkin & therian) boards:
Otherkin Phenomena - Has been suffering from some board code problems for a while (at least since 2018). If you are not already a member, you will not currently be able to register.
Shadow of the Fallen Forum
Boards with a more specific focus:
The Elfin Sisterhood : Not just for women, despite the name.
This is a place for those who are interested in the Elfin and Faerie Races. And for those who are incarnated Elfin, Faerie, Goddess whether male or female. A place to work together for the greater good.
Unicorn Grove is a board oriented specifically towards unicorn otherkin.
Draconic.com hosts possibly the oldest still-running dragon board.
Fae Paradise is specifically for fae and related types.
The Werelist is a therian-specific forum, although otherkin can sometimes be found there.
Boards not strictly about otherkin, but that deal with similar things and outlooks:
Elven World is a little on the New Age love-and-light side and I don't personally agree with equating elves, fae, and Tuatha De Danann as being all the same thing, but some interesting discussions occasionally happen there.
Elven, Fae, Other-Kin, Tuatha de Danann, Nature magical spirits, multi dimensional realities, Mythical beings, Love energy, Celtic mythology. Do you hear the whisper of the Elven and the Fae? Do you have the blood of Tuatha de Danann, children of the Earth, coursing through your veins?
Shadowlore is more of a general "dark" board, primarily aimed at vampires; they also have sub-boards for other topics such as therians, witchcraft, and goth subculture, as well as otherkin.
IRC and other Chats
Various of the message boards above have chat features attached to the boards; check individually for any scheduled chats.
Darkfang Archive's list of otherkin, therian, and real vampire IRC channels
Please note that I have not personally been in all the chats listed below. Caveat non-hominum.
Discord is a common platform for chat these days. You can download a client for various operating systems, or run it in a web browser, at discordapp.com.
To log on to IRC networks and join #channels, you need an IRC client program, such as mIRC, KVirc, XChat, or the ChatZilla extension for Firefox.
Darkfang uses Matrix (matrix.org), which can be tricky to set up. Fortunately, you can also chat as a guest without an account from the links below.
EDMC chats.darkfang.org/edmc - Aimed at mythic otherkin, but other types, therians, allies, and the curious are also welcome. (EDMC stands for "Experimental Disposable Mythics Channel", meaning the predecessor IRC channel was for mythfolk and started as a "disposable" experiment.)
3lvz chats.darkfang.org/3lvz - Elves only.
H~ chats.darkfang.org/h - "For people who don't identify as/would rather not be human and do not have spiritual interpretations for that fact. Transhumanists, cyborgs, allies and the curious are also totally welcome."
Generally: not recommended.
The #otherkin tag mostly ranges from toxic to useless and I would not recommend looking through it unless you like tormenting yourself. Even blocking every jerkface who comes into #otherkin just to troll or bash doesn't do much; my block list grew to over 2600 accounts that way before I gave up tracking the tag in around 2016. (That's right; anywhere from, say, 2000 up to 2600 individual human beings who thought that particular use of their time was a good idea.) #otherkind is better; you do still get some nonsense in there, but generally it's very low traffic, so it's not as annoying. You might also have better luck with type-specific tags like #elfkin or #faekin, but don't hold your breath. I don't recommend bothering with any of the so-called "secret" or "safe" tags that people try to launch now and again (see: #buttereggs, #oddnose).
"That trick never works!" (she says, showing her age).
In any case, Tumblr has huge shortcomings when it comes to community discussion, since "reblogging" is a weak replacement for direct replies and is hard for other people to follow without special effort; forget threaded or collocated conversation like in email or a message board or journal community.
It is also frustrating to me as non-therian that the "otherkin" population on Tumblr is dominated by therians/"animal-kin". I agree that therians can be considered a kind of otherkin in the broad sense of being non-human, and there is definitely community history of some folk moving in both circles, but it makes it hard to find the mythic types, because animal folks have always been more populous overall than mythics. I would love to see more elves, faery, and sidhe over there, or even mythfolk in general.
Meetups and Informal Events
Meetups or "mini-meets" are short in-person events typically lasting a few hours.
The general Otherkin meetup page at Meetup.com may help you find a local group for meetups.
I am the organizer for the San Francisco Bay Area Otherkin Meetup. We meet each month on alternating second Saturdays and second Sundays at locations that rotate among five regions around the Bay, to give everyone a chance to at least occasionally have one occur in a convenient location for them. Additionally, we also do an annual special meetup at PantheaCon on Presidents' Day weekend, assuming that my husband Celebron and I can get a room at the DoubleTree Hotel. (This is not a "hospitality suite" and so is not listed in the official program, but you can find information on the Meetup page and we distribute flyers at the con.) We started with a Meetup.com page in September 2011 and have been running continuously since then.
Dan O'Dea and Sidhelady organize the North Houston Otherkin Meetup , which has been meeting since March 2009 and also does the Summer Gateways gather each May and A Gathering Echo each September (see below under Gathers).
Faerie in Phoenix: Hope, Wonder, and Deliria is the latest incarnation of the Arizona group that used to put on the (Fireland) Phoenix Faerie Festival, a.k.a. OtherWorlds Festival. I've never been clear whether they are an otherkin group per se or just friendly to us, but maybe worth a shot.
Once we were the Phoenix Faerie, building a network of fae loving people and fae aspected beings in the arid southwest. It is in that core's memory that the meetup group's name remains. We sought to replenish ourselves and others with the wellspring of Myth, Story, Art and Community. ... We realized that there were so many other sorts of entities and otherkin out there though. ... Our festival was renamed the OtherWorlds Festival as we reached out to all the Other entities and Other possibilities. ... Let us remember. To the average person, we are all OtherFolk.
A "gather" is the otherkin answer to a convention, although much smaller (typically 10-30 attending), and is something like a spiritual retreat. They last longer than a meetup, usually 2 to 4 days including a weekend. If you know of a privately owned site in northern California that we could use for a gather, please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org!
Summer Gateways , the successor to Dancing the Endless Dream, generally takes place annually on Memorial Day weekend in the Houston, Texas area, at an outdoor cabin site. It is hosted by the North Houston Otherkin Meetup. The target audience is not solely otherkin, but the event is run by otherkin and otherkin topics feature significantly in the workshops. It was last held on May 26-29, 2017. (2018 was skipped for reasons not known to me. 2019 is not yet on the group calendar as of March 2019.)
The House Kheperu Gather is not an otherkin gather per se, but a metaphysical/energy-work event with some workshops specific to House Kheperu and vampires. However, otherkin may find something of value there. It is held annually in a hotel in Ohio in June. It will next be held on June 21-23, 2019.
A Gathering Echo is the successor to the FAE Retreat (a get-together for the now defunct Faeborn and Astral Entities board, a.k.a. Foundation for Awakening and Enlightenment), also put on by the North Houston Otherkin Meetup. It is generally held annually on Labor Day weekend and was last on September 1-3, 2018.
Otherkin can also sometimes be found at various other kinds of festivals or conventions, such as:
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last updated 3/02/2019